WHY COSBY MATTERS

Bill Cosby is speaking to everybody. Is anybody listening? Cosby is not just telling the truth to Blacks in America. He is uttering universal truths to all of us everywhere. They apply to every society on the face of the earth. Building a country or a society begins at the lowest level of a civilization's organization. The family. America, particularly Black America, must rebuild the family before we can hope to rebuild a culture. Cosby knows nothing can change until the family is changed.

We are trying to build Iraq, or more precisely cause Iraqis to build, a democratic Iraq. We are trying to build it from the top down as if neither tribe in a tribal culture nor family matter. We need to realize that the Arab family structure has to change before the civilization can be changed. In Iraq the family means women stay in the home; they cook, provide sons, provide sex, clean the house, and when women go out (to meet with other women only inside a house or buy food) they have to be covered. The men rule the family. They dispense money, punishments, and rewards. The only thing that counts is his honor, both inside and outside the family. He is the tribal leader within his family. He must be obeyed. His daughters will marry whom they are told to marry. Or else. She can't go to school. The sons go to school. The feminist Left would have us all believe that Muslim women are miserable; that they are powerless. As usual, the Left is wrong.

The hidden side of the Arab family, hidden only to the West, is that Muslim women wield enormous influence and power. They control sex. They control the behavior of the children. They control how others coming into "her" home perceive the wealth and honor of the home. Every Muslim woman knows the weakness of Muslim men is honor. The men can be shamed into doing anything. Muslim women can cause a man she doesn't like to be killed simply by telling her husband that she was touched or looked upon. Every man past thirty has sexual failures. In an Arab home this is shame to the maximum. Once an Arab male has had a sexual failure the woman rules the roost. A family "dialectic" that has been this way for thousands of years. Every study of the Arab family reveals that the only real traffic psychiatrists have are males with sexual "problems" at home. The shame can be unbearable.

Consider the American Black Family Cosby is addressing. Most likely there is no father in the house. Most likely the woman is running everything on her own. Nobody is there to tell her what to do. She grew up with no man having any permenent influence on her. We have all experienced Black women interacting with us in what appears to be a "stonewall" fashion; sometimes or they can behave in an almost bizarre manner. They show nothing and pretend to show everything. Sometimes they get hysterical. She gets her way with men in a purely sexual fashion, not a bargaining fashion. The culture teaches her that her value is vaginal. Period. Probably the father, or fathers, of her children are either in jail or about to go. Men are not to be trusted. Men are flakes. It is more than likely the men in their lives never come around, almost never see their own children. Once her sons get to be ten or eleven she has "lost them". They do whatever they want. The streets and the culture tell them that women are shit. Just pussy. Just bitches and ho's. The streets tell him that the real money is in hustling drugs or robbing a mark. Unless he can play sports or music. The children are going to repeat in their own futures what they learn. The boys will most likely do what their fathers did; fuck and flee. Luckily this has only been going on for fifty or sixty years, not four thousand. Maybe Cosby and the rest of the Black Middle Class can change things by continually speaking out and reforming the family; demanding that kids go to school and succeed. It's going to be very tough to break habits that are only sixty years old.

How do we change habits in Iraq that are four thousand years old? If the families in Iraq don't change there is no way to change their governments and institutions. Government is simply a family transferred to the political arena. Everyone is assuming that the Muslim women want freedom, that they want out of the house. Wrong. They do not want what we call freedom. They like being Muslim Women. Within the Muslim religion following rules makes you free. They want to wear the hadj head covering. They want to follow the rules. They do not want emasculated men. Neither Muslim men nor Muslim women want what they see as a degenerate Western culture. They want a strong man running things, setting rules to follow, being masculine.

Cosby is talking about more than he knows. He is talking about civilizations.